Dear Coleen: I’m a virgin age 55 and I worry my life is wasted

Dear Coleen

I’m a 55-year-old gay man and I’ve known about my sexuality since my teens, but I’ve never had any sexual experiences or relationships with anyone.

I’m still a virgin and I keep my sexuality a closely guarded secret.

Growing up in a small village community, I never felt comfortable declaring how I felt and only two or three people know the truth about me.

I have a great job, a house, a car and want for nothing, but I have this fear that life is passing my by and that I’ll never have any kind of relationship.

To complicate matters, I’m only attracted to much younger men (18 to 25 year olds), which makes me even more frustrated, because I know full well I have no chance of ever getting into a ­relationship with someone in this age group.

I’ve tried contacting helplines and support groups and have met some people face-to-face a few times but, because I’m just so uncomfortable and awkward, I don’t maintain contact.

Retirement scares me a great deal.

I don’t have any close friends and giving up work to do nothing at all is just too awful to contemplate.

I would love to meet someone I can trust and have a relationship with, but my life is just plodding on relentlessly and I’m stuck in the same routines.

I’d be grateful for any advice.

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