I can't be with my partner until her homophobic mum dies | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: I CAN’T be with my partner properly until her mother dies because the old lady is a homophobic control freak.

I’m a 28-year-old gay woman. My partner is 32.

We met through a friend who invited us to her hen weekend.

We got on like a house on fire and have been together ever since.

My partner’s mother has a lung condition and she’s on oxygen.

She lives upstairs in their house and my partner does everything for her. She won’t have carers in the house or use a stair lift.

My partner is wrung out with it all and what makes it worse is we can’t be open about our relationship.

Her mother would never give her blessing.

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If she’s coming to meet me, she leaves her mother with sandwiches and a drink then rushes back after an hour to check on her.

It’s making it hard to have a proper relationship.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Her mother has probably always been the matriarch and when she makes demands, your partner is transported back to being a little girl again.

Find a moment to explain to your partner that you’re worried about her.

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FFLAG can advise on how to talk to parents about your sexuality. See fflag.org.uk, 0300 688 0368.

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