I tried to give my sister in-law advice for carrying for her baby but she exploded

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE been trying to help my sister-in-law with suggestions about how she could better care for my baby niece – but she blew up at me the other day.

She and my brother had their daughter six weeks ago.


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The baby hasn’t settled well and they’ve had lots of sleepless nights.

They are both 30 and I’m a single woman of 35.

I used to work as a nanny so I’ve been trying to offer them advice.

For example, a settled routine at bedtime would help, rather than having her fall asleep on one of them in front of the TV.

I met my sister-in-law in the park for a walk with the buggy. I told her the baby needed to be wrapped up more warmly.

My sister-in-law is normally very calm but she had a meltdown and said she’s sick of me telling her what to do.

Being shouted at brought back memories of being bullied at school and I still feel upset.

DEIDRE SAYS: It seems that your sister-in-law is exhausted.

It is extremely stressful looking after your own first-born baby.

You mean well but it’s always a good plan to avoid giving unasked-for advice.

The best help is to offer to take the baby off her hands for a few hours to give her a regular break.

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