Mum sparks huge debate on how much you should spend on kids at Christmas
A single mum has sparked a debate on how much parents should spend on their children at Christmas after her ex-partner said she should spend more.
The unnamed mum said she was told she does not spend enough on her children's presents during by her their dad.
The man told her he believed a whole months worth of the child maintenance he pays should be spent on each of their two children, aged six and seven.
The mum, who is "not flush with money" and relies "massively" on the maintenance payments to pay the bills said she was doubting herself, in a post on Facebook group, Single Mums Den.
Her post asked parents how much they spend on their children at Christmas, with some mums and dads admitting they shell out more than £1500.
Others slammed the father and said that child maintenance "is for the upkeep" of children, "not for presents".
The post reads: "This post isn’t to start an argument or make any other parent feel bad about what they can or can’t give their children. It’s more curiosity for me and to help my situation.
"My children’s father always tells me at Christmas and birthdays I don’t spend enough on our kids.
"He thinks I should be spending double based on the amount of child maintenance he gives me. Basically he thinks a full months worth of maintenance should go on each child.
"I have a 6 year old and 7 year old. What do others spend? I think what I give them is generous but now I’m doubting myself.
"I work full time, no benefits but I’m not flush with money and rely massively on the maintenance to help towards bills etc."
One mum said that this year she has already spent $500 on each of her three children as well as a trampoline as a joint present.
Another said she used to shell out £1500 on Christmas and five days later an extra £700 on birthday presents, but now spends less as her son's presents ended up broken.
She said: "He is four almost five and I’ve learned from my mistakes. I’ve taken almost every toy as he’s broken them and binned them. His room was full now it’s not.
"Now I focus on indoor science kits and outdoor activities for him. I’ve got it down to around £500 for Xmas and £500 for birthday for clothes and bits to go with Xmas stuff, as he grows threw [sic] the year so much so best to stock up at this time for me.
"Saves me spending threw[sic] the year too, lesson 100 per cent learnt as I don’t want to ruin him I just want him to appreciate his stuff now."
Others joked they'd like to be "adopted" by one generous grandmother.
She said: "I spend about £400 on my kids that are still at home each for Xmas and about £250 on them for birthdays.
"My kids that have left home I spend about £200 on them each at birthdays and Xmas as they have children themselves, so I have to buy for my grandchildren as well and my grandchildren get £150 each for birthdays and Xmas."
One mum said she felt rubbish after reading what other parents spent.
She said: "Omg reading some of these comments make me feel very poo!! I spend £50 on birthdays and £100 Christmas. That's all I can do!!"
Others hit out at the father and encouraged the mother to spend what she could afford.
One woman said: "Child maintenance is for the upkeep of ur [sic] children, not for presents
"Feeding, clothing, haircuts etc! If he thinks they should get more then he should buy them stuff!"
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